Friday, July 31, 2015

Slices of Life



Whether it's a gleeful baby looking over its mother's shoulder, someone's playful pug dog or the driver of the car stopped next to you at the light, you look at a stranger and – wham! – your heart warms up and there is something in that instant, that only the two of you will ever know.

Or the new recipe works perfectly for company.

You reach for the gorgeous dress or suit – and it fits perfectly - plus you look amazing in it.

You play and audition or have a job interview – and ace it.


Every day these tiny joys find ways to brighten our lives. It's no surprise that we snap photos and keep journals to remember the times we thought our hearts would burst wide open.

A gentle hug, an outburst of laughter, or a funny one-liner can open up the sunshine floodgates and leave us feeling all warm and fuzzy.

These delightful slices of life are served up when you least expect them. Everyone has them and we should hold on to the feeling as long as possible. These are the Magic Moments that add wonder and joy to our lives.

"And if we were to collect these small moments in a notebook and save them over a period of months we would see certain trends emerge from our collection—certain voices would emerge that have been trying to speak through us. We would realize that we have been having another life altogether; one we didn’t even know was going on inside us. And maybe this other life is more important than the one we think of as being real—this clunky day-to-day world of furniture and noise and metal. So just maybe it is these small silent moments which are the true story-making events of our lives.”
Douglas Coupland, Life After God

“Sometimes it's the same moments that take your breath away that breathe purpose and love back into your life.”





Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Organizing a man's closet

How to Design a Man's Closet

Yes, men want to have more order in their closet, too. Unless you have a rock star's income and two-story walk-in closet, use the tips below to make the most out of a normal closet.

Get rid of your old stuff

Take everything in your closet that you don’t wear. I know you got attached to it but think about renovation, and for that to work you need to unattach from the old stuff you have. Unclutter that closet!

T- Shirts

Organize T-shirts by colors and the ones that have graphics on them. You should already have everything out of your closet, so choose a place that you think will be perfect for the t-shirts section. Go ahead and separate all the colors including t-shirts with graphics on it. Then place the t-shirts organized by color and hang them. With the same color t-shirts keep the ( Plain T shirts on the left ) and ( T shirts with graphics on the right ) and so on for the other colors. It should look like this:
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Or if you would prefer, you could just fold them and put them away organized.

Dress Shirts and Suits

With Dress Shirts you should do the same thing and arrange them by colors as well. Men often use different type of colors so remember to separate the plaid shirts as well. For the Suits and Blazers beside colors, separate them by fabric wool, cotton , linen etc…

Jeans and Pants

Hang your Jeans and Pants because they tend to get wrinkles. You should already know how important it is to never wear clothes that are wrinkled. If you don’t have much space in your closet at least hang the pants and leave the jeans folded.

Shoes and Accessories:

The best way to organize shoes and accessories is to make them visible.  You want to be sure you will see everything you have to make the best option for your outfit. You don’t want to be going from box to box trying to find what you are looking for. A shoe rack is extremely helpful if you don’t have a space built in for shoes in your closet. Plus you can also place it underneath the hangers to make usage of all space you have. The same thing for watches, sunglasses,bracelets etc… You can always buy some nice rack to place them and maybe a portable one so when you are traveling you can take everything at once.

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For Ties and Belts hang everything. Once again, you don’t want to fold your ties because it can get wrinkled and if you fold your belts unproperly , it will leave marks that will damage them.



Step by Step: How to organize a woman's closet


There’s little point in owning the latest bag or dress if you can’t find it in your closet when you’re getting dressed. A clean, well-organized wardrobe—instead of a confusing, jumbled mess of clothes and accessories—means you’ll maximize all your sartorial purchases, and come up with polished, carefully considered outfits even on hectic mornings. 

Read on for tips and tricks from professionals and soon you’ll not only have clothes that are well maintained but also an orderly closet, like the one below from  The Coveteur.
The Experts Spill Their Tips For A Clean, Well-Organized Closet


Step #1: Get Rid Of Your Old Clothes. 
It might not be easy, but tossing out or donating old clothes is key to making room in your closet. Donate anything they haven’t worn in more than two years that has no intrinsic value. Also, if it’s two sizes too small or two sizes too big, get rid of it. It’s time to buy new clothes. Ask yourself if you’d buy this item today, or if it has a sentimental factor that warrants storage.


Step #2: Call The Pros—Or Find Your Own Storage Solutions. 
If you’re interested in hiring professional help to organize your closet, it may be more affordable than you think. A custom closet is a luxury that many of us can afford. Even the major closet companies can design what you would like on a budget. But if that’s not an option, use storage units that allow you to see your clothes and accessories. If you can’t see it, you don’t wear it! Use Slimline Hangers; your clothes won’t fall off and they give you twice the space of wood and plastic.”


Step #3: Start Organizing. 
How do you organize sweaters versus lingerie or shoes versus jeans? There are different solutions for each, so check out how you can start de-cluttering your closet.

Tops 
If you have the space to hang everything, hang everything. You’ll wear things more if you can see them.

Sweaters 
Fold the very heavy sweaters so they don’t lose shape on the hanger.  Also, cedar is not a myth. It really does prevent moths from getting into your cashmere or wool sweaters. Replace the cedar every six months.  Color code sweaters by weight, and use dividers or cubbies. Use a sweater folding board to make perfect folds. 

Jeans 
There are a number of ways to do so—by cut, brand, color, style, size, or none of the above. Some people go by color and most prefer it that way, unless they’re die-hard jeans collectors.
Hang by the hem and organize by dark to light denim.

Pants/Skirts/Shorts 
Hang them using clips and fold in the sides so the outside of the garment isn’t marked by the clips. This also makes everything look uniform on the hanger and gives it a cleaner side profile in your closet.

Dresses 
Hang by color rather than length and start with strapless and go to long-sleeve. Never leave your dresses, or any other clothes, in the dry cleaning or plastic garment bags. The chemicals from dry cleaning attack the fibers of your clothing and cause damage.

Bags/Scarves/Hats 
It’s hard to change bags if you can’t see them. They don’t generally get damaged out of their dust bags, so enjoy the view. Scarves folded in piles by color and material works best, and makes it easy to pull one out without ruining the organization of the rest. I have a scarf hanger and it works well. For hats, use hat boxes. Take uniform photos of the hats and glue them to the outside of the boxes.

Shoes 
Organize shoes by color and style. You could  hide tennis shoes and flip-flops in the least seen place. My son puts them in a row in his hall as a kind of sneaker exhibition. Since the shoes are super and well cared for, it looks great.

Lingerie 
Organize by color, size, and type. Make sure to rotate your bras and underwear so you’re not wearing the same few all of the time. 

Jewelry 
A built-in drawer in one’s closet or dresser in order to keep things neat and uncluttered works well. It’s also a great way to see what you have and makes it easy to keep hidden from plain sight. Other people like the easy accessiblility of necklace "trees". I have a pretty bamboo box and a special wooden watch case with a glass top so I can admire them.


Image courtesy of The Coveteur.

Is simplicity minimalism?

I am cat sitting in a big house and it is all too MUCH!

That house is full, the garage is full, the basement is full and there are about twenty balls from the kids in the garden. A case of mixing up quantity with quality of life.

All this stuff needs to be organized, stored, cared for and, above all, used. Objects just stay where they fall. It's freakin' me out!

The house was starting to smell so I had to clean out the cat toilet. Errm, I didn't feel much like breakfast after that. The cats bring me lovely, heart-warming gifts like half-dead moles to appreciate. So I need to get rid of those somehow, too. And to think I used to love getting presents!

It's not like I don't appreciate the love for pets. But they surely don't fit into my lifestyle. 

I prefer to take care of things that don't stink - like the flowers on my balcony. Yet I have to find someone who plant-sits when I take a trip. At least in the summer. Minimalism would mean no plants or only cacti, I suppose.

Is simplicity minimalism? Can you feel joyous without owning masses of stuff or animals? 

I've offered a bedroom to airbnb. My first guest comes this evening. I hope it works out well. Even though I've cut back on stuff, I still have the statues that please me. Otherwise, I don't have much to take if someone decides to steal. Oh well, let's not assume the worst...

Still, polishing up the room for my guest, I became aware of the "too-manys" - shoes and clothes and the shelves or closets to store them. My pledge - I shall pare down to one clothes closet and discard the shoes I don't wear at all. Confession: I still have an extra clothes rack full of THINGS. Yes, my closet runneth over.


Saturday, July 25, 2015

Prevail – A Lesson from Cats


Yesterday, I was watching while my daughter tried to get a wasp out of the house. Her cat wanted that wasp, too.

The cat darted toward the wasp. My daughter pushed her away.

Undaunted, the cat pressed forward again.  Again she was shoved away, this time less gently.

It took a whack on the nose for the cat to hesitate – before she went for that wasp one more time.

How many of us get shoved and then give up? We have a goal and the way towards it gets bumpy.  It doesn’t feel good to experience difficulty. 

That cat didn’t slink into a corner and sulk. She just kept coming back and would have gotten her “goal” but my daughter had caught the wasp in a jar and then freed it outside.

Our lesson? Despite bumps, shoves, obstacles and rejection, we should persevere if our goals are really important to us.


Ahh, if the cat had gotten the wasp, it wouldn’t have been pleasant. But that’s another fable.

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Friday, July 17, 2015

Feedback as a tool to self-improvement


Feedback is Critical to Improving Performance

"You're cold! Now you're getting warmer! You're HOT!" Even children playing the popular "Hot or Cold" game know that, to perform well (find the hidden object), people need to be told how they're doing.  Without feedback, you're walking blind.

Feedback is a great orientation tool. Are you doing things in the correct way or do you need to correct something?

Planes, for instance, are often “off course” but are constantly corrected so that the passengers end up where they want to land instead of Timbuktu. 

Most people in the workplace suffer from a lack of performance feedback – Information about what they are currently doing well and what areas require improvement.

Automatic feedback helps us reach goals

One category of feedback is designed to be given often and automatically through a measurement system. Feedback can be designed into a work process or a measurement system so that it is received automatically by the employee. For example, many work processes have been designed to provide performance measures daily, such as a production or printing process, i.e. so many copies printed per day as determined by machine count. Also, total quality and reengineering programs use extensive work process measurement methods. Employees can measure for themselves how they and their team are doing.

Automatic Feedback as speed control
The perception of speeding on local streets is probably the most persistent problem facing residents and traffic officials. Residents observe vehicles being driven at speeds they perceive are too fast. Speeds considered excessive by residents are considered reasonable by these same persons when they are driving in another neighborhood.

One successful traffic control measure is the use of mobile feedback for drivers. You’ve probably seen them – you see a sign that informs you of the speed limit. Underneath you see your own driving speed. I’ve even seen them with faces that smile when you’re “good” and frown when you drive too fast.  Studies have shown that drivers consistently slow down when they are able to see the discrepancy between “is and should be”.  

Automatic feedback for fitness
I love my personal trainings. I am pushed hard but I know that the exercises are customized for me. And my trainer watches out that I stay safe yet reach my fitness goals (Hey, I’ve lost 2 centimeters everywhere!). But, outside of these personal trainings, I'm on my own.

How can we progress without "somebody watching"?

There are now so many top fitness trackers on the market that choosing the best one can be difficult.
And it's not just a case of Fitbit or Jawbone or nothing. The right activity tracker will be based on your individual needs; whether it's step counting, sleep tracking or 24/7 heart rate tracking, there's something for everyone – it's just about finding the right one for you.
My brother and sister-in-law have bought the things to keep track of their steps each day. It was quite surprising for them to find out they weren’t getting in as many steps as they estimated.

We all think we get more from less: Someone eats a piece of cake and says he just needs to walk a few flights of steps to burn it off. Dream on!! If you key in the things you eat on a food or diet app, you’ll be surprised how fast those calories add up!

People who say they “gain weight and don’t eat anything” are amazed when they journal everything they eat. Using an app, they realize that the calories taken in each day are much more than the body could burn. Ergo, they gain weight.

I love learning languages on duolingo.com. If I need help, it is easily available. If I get something wrong, the correct version is shown. And I love the fanfare when I successfully finish a unit or get promoted to a higher “fluency level”.

I can do all these things alone and don’t need another person to help me discover any blind spots. It feels good to know I'm getting better and closer to my goals.

I teach piano and cello on the side and wish I had a possibility for the kids to get feedback while practicing at home. Not the “SUPER!” from Granddad or the “There’s a wrong note in there somewhere!” yelled from the kitchen.

I need some way for the kids to know they are on the right track. I offered the possibility of the parents recording the child and sending me the audio file. I listen to the recording and send a correction recording back as soon as I can.  It’s not optimal but it beats having the kid practice wrong the whole week.

What automatic feedback do you know and use? 

Sunday, July 12, 2015

How to have more energy


Doing your best work requires focus and energy. But it’s hard to stay focused for an 8-hour stretch. So how can you find the necessary energy to get your work done? How do you choose those precious moments when you think you’ll be feeling your best to do the most challenging work? And what’s the best way to ride out any lulls?

What the Experts Say
“It’s just not realistic to expect ourselves to be on all day,” says Carson Tate, author of Work Simply: Embracing the Power of Your Personal Productivity Style. “Just as you wouldn’t expect yourself to walk at a brisk pace for eight solid hours, you shouldn’t expect yourself to be focused or think strategically for that amount of time,” says Tate. To make matters worse, few of us are getting adequate shut-eye. Around a third of the time, Americans come to work with less than 6 hours of sleep. “That’s just not enough,” says Christopher Barnes, an assistant professor of management at the University of Washington’s Foster School of Business. “And the effects can be very detrimental to your work.” Here are strategies to feel more energized during the day.

Tailor your tasks to your energy
“There are a few optimal windows for doing your most creative and focused work,” Barnes says. Most people are at their best in the mid-morning and late afternoon. You might match your circadian rhythm to your schedule by organizing your to-do list around these peaks and valleys. Tate recommends doing “any type of highly detailed work,” such as writing, important decision-making, or technical coding during high-energy hours. During the lulls, you can then turn to tasks that don’t require a great deal of focus: cleaning out your inbox, filling out expense reports, or returning phone calls. “That’s when to do tasks that are like muscle memory work,” she says.

Get up and move
Any kind of physical movement will temporarily boost your alertness and energy levels. “Do just ten minutes, and the energy and focus will be much stronger afterwards,” says Tate. You might take a brisk walk around the block, walk up and down the stairs, do some jumping jacks or push-ups, or even just stretch at your desk. The key is simply to move, which gets oxygen flowing and helps your body and mind overcome fatigue. Have a meeting scheduled? Take your colleague for a walk instead. And make a concerted effort to integrate exercise into your weekly schedule. “If you exercise regularly,” says Barnes, “then your chronic levels of energy will be higher.”

Meditate at your desk
Steve Jobs swore by it. Ray Dalio, head of the $165 billion Bridgewater Associates hedge fund, says it makes him feel like “a ninja in a fight.” Their secret weapon? Meditation. “Mindfulness exercises are a great way to engage in restoration” during the day, says Barnes. Research suggests that even a just a few minutes of meditation lowers stress and improves concentration and focus in a tired brain. “It’s a restful period that lets people drop some of the anxiety that further drains their energy,” says Barnes. Breathing “sounds so basic,” says Tate. But “five to seven deep belly breaths give us a lot more oxygen, which will give you a boost.”

Avoid relying on caffeine
Drinking coffee often feels like it mitigates the effects of a midday dip. “But it’s not actually giving you more energy,” says Barnes. “All it’s doing is masking the effects of your low energy,” by blocking a chemical that tells your body you are tired. And while this might work for awhile, caffeine, like any other drug, soon begins to have diminishing returns. “The more dependent you are, the less the benefit you gain from using it and the more you need it just to get to your normal level,” says Barnes. He recommends using caffeine rarely and strategically to feel energized, like ahead of a big monthly meeting or if you’ve gotten a particularly bad night of sleep. “Don’t make it a habit to go out for coffee at 3 o’clock,” he says.

Listen to music
“Music is a great way to rev up or calm down,” says Tate. Just as you use music to energize when you work out, “you can do the same thing before your 3 PM presentation,” she says. The type of music that works best will differ from person to person: Whereas a fast-paced beat might get one person moving and energized, a laid-back beat might help someone else clear his mind and focus. Tate has a preference for instrumentals without lyrics, which she says “really helps me get through cognitive lulls.”

Power down your device
Working on your computer or phone late into the night directly harms your energy levels the next day. That’s because blue light from a device’s screen suppresses the production of melatonin, the chemical that tells your brain that it’s time to go to sleep. “It’s critical to avoid smartphone and tablets within an hour or two of going to bed,” says Barnes. “The worst thing you can do is use your phone in bed.” Of course, if checking your email at night is non-negotiable, Barnes suggests using apps like f.lux for computers or Twilight for smartphones to shift your device’s display from more blue light to red as day turns to night. Wearing blue-blocking Uvex glasses or similar models while you work at night can also help.

Get more sleep
If you’ve heard it once, you’ve heard it a thousand times: The key to feeling more energized during the day is simply to get more sleep at night. “If you want to excel at anything, go to bed,” says Tate. “Sleep is the number one predictor of success.” Barnes agrees. “People think they can get just five or six hours of sleep and be fine,” he says. “But even small amounts of lost sleep will have noticeable effects.” A 2009 study found that people who had their sleep restricted to five hours a night for four days in a row showed the same loss in performance at a simple cognitive task as people who had a blood alcohol content level of .06. If you get eight hours of sleep on a regular basis, Barnes says, the dips in your circadian rhythms will be far less painful and more manageable. “Then none of these stop-gap measures will be necessary.”

Principles to Remember
Do:
  • Meditate or perform breathing exercises when you start to feel your energy wane.
  • Put down your device an hour before you go to bed, and try to get 7-8 hours of sleep on a regular basis.
  • Use music to motivate and energize.
Don’t:
  • Tackle important or creative tasks during lulls — save those for peak energy hours.
  • Sit at your desk all day ­— take short walks, stretch, or do calisthenics for short-term bursts of energy.
  • Depend on coffee to get you through the afternoon.
Case study #1: Mining energy in mindfulness
Dan Scalco had been struggling with the 3 o’clock slump for awhile. As CEO of Digitalux, a digital marketing company based in Hoboken, New Jersey, Dan regularly clocked 12-hour days, putting out fires with clients, pitching for new work, and managing his team.
He tried taking supplements and multivitamins, going to the gym, and even taking mininaps in his office. But nothing seemed to alleviate the afternoon lull.
Then he began to do more research on strategies that had worked for successful business leaders. “I found that a lot of the people that I admire, people who are CEOs and authors, have some form of meditative practice,” Dan says. He was skeptical at first. “I had always looked at meditation as something that hippies did,” he says. But the more he read about the benefits, the more he wanted to give it a try.
The effects for him were immediate. He felt more energized, less stressed, and more focused during interactions with his clients and team. He now tries to meditate at least once a day for 15 to 20 minutes – typically around 2:30 or 3 PM. He sits on his office couch or chair, with his hands on his knees and eyes closed, and repeats a mantra in his head. “It’s like I’m on vacation for about 20 minutes a day,” he says. Afterward, “I feel like my brain has recharged.”
“I can honestly say that meditating at least once per day has changed my life,” Dan says. “It has given me unlimited amounts of energy, and thoroughly increased my productivity.”

Case study #2: Maximizing high-energy hours
Ryan Hulland was dog tired. As vice president and co-owner of Monitoring Management (MonMan), a Charlotte, North Carolina-based supplier of HVAC and electrical equipment, he was pulling down long weeks trying to expand the business. In the evenings, he would help put his three-year-old to bed before getting back on the computer to do more work.
He began drinking more coffee and energy drinks, but found that they weren’t having the same effect after awhile. That’s when he began walking regularly, often after lunch. He found the exercise invigorated him, and led to more creative ideas. But when he got back to his desk re-energized, he often had to tackle a fairly mundane, rote task on his to-do list, which immediately erased the walk’s effects.
He began breaking out his to-do list into three columns on a white board in his office: a “fun” column of tasks that required a bit of creative thinking, like writing a company blog post; a “stuff” column of more mundane tasks that didn’t require a great deal of concentration or thought, like filling out paperwork; and an “urgent” column of items that needed to get done regardless of how he was feeling.
“I try to match up items on the list with how I’m feeling at the time,” Ryan says. “The creative or fun stuff I like to do when I have a lot of energy and then the boring stuff I do when I have a lull.”
Ryan says that thanks to his new to-do list format, he gets far more done and takes better advantage of his peak-energy hours. Whereas he might have mindlessly surfed the web during a low-energy lull, he now tackles something from his “stuff” column. “There’s rarely a time now throughout the day that I’m not doing something,” he says.
He still works the same hours, but estimates he’s “maybe 20 to 30 percent more productive.” And when he gets home at night, “I’m less tired than I was before.”


Carolyn O’Hara is a writer and editor based in New York City. She’s worked at The Week, PBS NewsHour, and Foreign Policy. Follow her on Twitter at @carolynohara1.

Thursday, July 9, 2015

LOOK AT ALL YOUR STUFF!


Look at all your STUFF at least once a year!

When I started this DOWNSIZE MY STUFF project, I really had so many things I was mostly just storing. My basement had filled up so that I couldn’t even walk through it. I was afraid I’d be asked to appear on the TV-Thriller “Hoarding -Buried Alive”!

I’d watched my Mom’s emotional attachment to her things, projects and books – even though her strength was leaving her. My aunt is 89 years old, has a giant house and her stuff would fill a museum! These two women were the kindle for my DOWNSIZING motivation.

Now, I live in a three-room apartment with a very small basement space. I even have whole shelves which are empty. If I play my cards right, I can sell more of the books (already sold about 900) and then sell the empty shelves. There is very little in the flat from my old abode. It feels like a chance to begin anew here.

Last week, I bought a beautiful cherry-wood cabinet with glass doors and beautiful inlay work on the four drawers. It cost 325€ through ebay so I don’t feel so guilty about buying it. I get a chill of pleasure every time I walk past the alcove where this beautiful piece is now reigning. If/When I die, the kids can just put it out on the street and someone will be glad to take it. That is, if they don’t sell it themselves!

Now that I am on vacation and back from a rather gloomy, foggy Hurdigruten ship voyage along the Norwegian coast, I have time to go through ALL my remaining things. WHY? Why?! you may well ask.

If you don’t look at your things, you stop seeing them. Which means you just store them and perhaps dust them occasionally. You buy more, store it, dust it, fall over it…

Since I really have downsized so much of my stuff, it is now possible for me to go through everything. I checked out the shirts and blouses (got rid of a few more to boot), went through all my Italian materials so I know what I have (Cheez! I almost bought two new books from Amazon and I really have enough material to learn.), put more books on Amazon, read about 10 of the books I have, put all my painting materials in order and painted several pictures while at it… See how it works?

I’m so used to parting with things I don’t use, I don’t suffer a bit if I find something I don’t need and get rid of the thing. Pretty soon my cleaning lady is going to have a problem though – she and the one before always took my hand-me-downs. Although they take some things back to Poland and Armenia respectively.