Thursday, February 23, 2017

Can Talent Be Learned?

“For 37 years I’ve practiced 14 hours a day, and now they call me a genius.” – Pablo de Sarasate, virtuoso violinist

“The harder I work, the more talented I get.” – Linda Langeheine, author

Research has shown that, generally speaking, once a person reaches a level of “acceptable” performance and automaticity, the additional years of “practice” don’t lead to improvement. Automated abilities gradually deteriorate in the absence of deliberate and strategic efforts to improve. You have to push yourself to get better.

The passion to master is an almost obsessive desire to improve.  Artists, corporate athletes, Olympic champions all have it.  It all has to do with motivation to get better, maybe even become the best.

There is a fundamental truth about any sort of practice: If you never push yourself beyond your comfort zone, you will never improve. Playing the same set of songs in exactly the same way over and over again may accumulate many “practice” hours, but will never lead to mastery and unconscious excellence. That’s a recipe for stagnation, not improvement.

Getting out of your comfort zone means trying to do something that you couldn’t do before. It means constantly trying things that are just beyond current abilities. It demands near-maximal effort, which is generally not enjoyable. Finding ways around barriers is one of the keys to purposeful practice.  It is surprisingly rare to get clear evidence in any field that a person has reached some immutable limit on performance.

People more often just give up and stop trying to improve.

The reason that most people don’t possess extraordinary capabilities isn’t because they don’t have the capacity for them, but rather because they are satisfied to live in the comfortable groove of homeostasis and never do the work that is required to get out of it. They live in the world of “adequate”. We learn enough to get by in our day-to-day lives, but once we reach that point, we seldom push to go beyond good enough. We do very little that challenges our brains to develop new gray matter or to rewire entire sections.

Doing the same thing over and over again in exactly the same way is not a recipe for improvement; it is a recipe for stagnation and gradual decline. Unless you are using practice techniques specifically designed to improve those particular skills, trying harder will not get you very far.

But it’s important to remember that the option exists. If you wish to become significantly better at something, you can.

The goal is not just to reach your potential but to build it, to make things possible that were not possible before. This requires challenging homeostasis – getting out of your comfort zone -  and forcing your brain and your body to adapt.

Revolutionary scientific discoveries involve a neural insulator called myelin, which some neurologists now consider to be the holy grail of acquiring skill. Every human skill, whether it's typing with 10 fingers, playing baseball, nailing difficult job interviews or playing Chopin, is created by chains of nerve fibers carrying a tiny electrical impulse—basically, a signal traveling through a circuit. Myelin's vital role is to wrap those nerve fibers the same way that rubber insulation wraps a copper wire, making the signal stronger and faster by preventing the electrical impulses from leaking out. When we fire our circuits in the right way—when we practice swinging that golf club or rehearsing that presentation—our myelin responds by wrapping layers of insulation around that neural circuit, each new layer adding a bit more skill and speed. The thicker the myelin gets, the better it insulates, and the faster and more accurate our movements and thoughts become. Skill is a cellular insulation that wraps neural circuits and that grows in response to certain signals.

The more time and energy you put into the right kind of practice—the longer you stay in the concentrated focus zone, firing the right signals through your circuits—the more skill you get, or, to put it a slightly different way, the more myelin you earn.

What matters is that learners divide up what can look like an infinite amount of material to train into a series of clear steps, making the progress more achievable, concrete and encouraging. It is necessary to break up the quest into a series of stages, each devoted to a particular technique, and at each step to develop ways to monitor progress.  This kind of practice is a highly targeted, error-focused process. Never skip over mistakes – stop and work on the weak aspects.  Experiences where you're forced to slow down, make errors, and correct them end up making you competent and elegant without your realizing it.  Make errors, stop, struggle, and learn from your mistakes.

Why is targeted, mistake-focused practice so effective? Because the best way to build a good circuit is to fire it, attend to mistakes, then fire it again, over and over. Struggle is not an option: it's a biological requirement.

You also need feedback.  Perhaps a colleague, teacher, mentor or video can make hidden mistakes visible.

Spending time watching or listening to the desired skill—the song, the move, the swing—as a single coherent entity. We have so many possibilities to learn from others and observe their performances. TED talks, YouTube videos, CDs, concerts, lectures, seminars, self-help books can all contribute to improvement.

But, in the end, YOU have to do the work. There is, biologically speaking, no substitute for attentive repetition. Nothing you can do—talking, thinking, reading, imagining—is more effective in building skill than executing the action, firing the impulse down the nerve fiber, being or becoming aware of mistakes, fixing errors, honing the circuit.

Don't look for the big, quick improvement. Seek the small improvement one day at a time. That's the only way it happens—and when it happens, it lasts.




Saturday, February 18, 2017

Increments of Joy

10-minute-chunks for becoming your best self: 
Increments of Joy

There is a saying that if you are not rowing forward, you are slipping backward. These small chunks of time can be used to improve yourself and so, upsize your life. If you can’t find 10 minutes during your day (think less TV), take five!

10 Minutes of Reading
You can float off into the world of fantasy or stick to meat-and-potatoes non-fiction. If you read before turning the lights out in the evening, good.  You might prefer the morning.  Using reading as a recess from a busy day works wonders for your stress tolerance.  

10 Minutes of Language Training
  • duolingo.com
  • pull out your vocabulary cards
  • read a few sentences of a story in the new language
10 Minutes of Exercise
  • Yoga/Stretching
  • a sassy Salsa or Hip Hop instruction video
  • walk around the block, up & down the stairs, or just around your garden
10 Minutes of Writing

Yes, I suppose your To-Do list counts. The best thing would be stream-of-thought writing or a super-short story. Do not evaluate what you’ve done, just close your journal and go on with your day.
Research has shown how beneficial writing can be in times of stress and grief. People making use of this therapeutic tool feel better much faster than control groups.

10 Minutes of Visualization
  • Imagine your ideal life.
  • Plant your perfect day in your mind. The brain will keep on “growing” it.
  • Visualize your perfect performance. Everything goes right. What do you hear, see, feel?
  • Use your mind to picture possible calamities. Then go on and develop solutions.
10 Minutes of Silence or Meditation
  • Just sitting, letting your mind go free. The thoughts come and go, without dwelling on them.
  • Imagine a mountain lake and the rain is pattering down. Allow the rain to slowly get less and less – then stop. Enjoy the crystal clear and smooth surface of the lake.
  • Use guided meditation, either from CDs or from YouTube.
10 Minutes of Inspiration
  • TED Talks
  • audio programs
  • YouTube instructional videos
  • Look out the window and admire nature.  Better still, take a 10-minute walk in it.
10 Minutes with a Hobby

Even though I like to draw, I rarely sit down and enjoy it. Now, I have made it a goal to practice drawing for 10 minutes. IF I want to do more and have the time, I have gotten over the threshold. It helps to leave the tools out so I don’t need to unpack everything.
  • Knit a row.
  • Draw something or at least begin a new drawing. Or paint a spontaneous picture with watercolors.
  • Putt a few balls in your living room or office. Practice shadow backhands. Glue a few parts on that new model ship.
  • Write in your blog.
Can you imagine your contribution toward your best self by using these small chunks of time? We waste so much time anyway. Why not enjoy short time windows to Upsize Your Life?!




Friday, February 17, 2017

Upsize Your Life 101: Carpe Mornings!

THE MIRACLE MORNING

How you wake up each day and your morning routine (or lack thereof) dramatically affects your levels of success in every single area of your life. Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive, successful days.

The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed To Transform Your Life… (Before 8AM) by Hal Elrod opens up a most interesting possibility to make the most of your life.

Elrod uses an acronym to explain the most important morning habits. He calls them LIFE S.A.V.E.R.S.

“In order to save your Level 10 life from being neglected and limited by the demands of your life situation—which ultimately leads to a life of regret, unfulfilled potential, and even mediocrity—you must prioritize and dedicate time each day to your personal development.
Enter The Miracle Morning Life S.A.V.E.R.S.—a set of six simple, life-enhancing, life-changing daily practices, each of which develops one or more of the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects of your life, so that you can become who you need to be to create the life you want.”
-Hal Elrod-

Life S.A.V.E.R.S. are a set of six simple daily practices, done preferably in the early morning.

They are:
• Silence
• Affirmations
• Visualization
• Exercise
• Reading
• Scribing

SILENCE
“If you want to immediately reduce your stress levels, to begin each day with the kind of calm, clarity, and peace of mind that will allow you to stay focused on what’s most important in your life, and even dance on the edge of enlightenment—do the opposite of what most people do—start every morning with a period of purposeful Silence.
The life-enhancing benefits of Silence have been well documented throughout the ages. From the power of prayer, to the magic of meditation, some of the greatest minds in history have used purposeful Silence to transcend their limitations and create extraordinary results.”Elrod

A wonderful practice for gaining peace and tranquility is breathing. Be in the moment and observe your breath.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFcQpNr_KA4

AFFIRMATIONS

We must transfer thoughts into words and eventually into actions in order to manifest our intentions. Affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains. They can even break through the negativity habit.

Example: „ I am filled with energy and overflowing with joy.“

You might enjoy these videoa from YouTube: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiMguQXX-q0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9J99Bdr4fQ

“You can use affirmations to start programming yourself to be confident and successful in everything you do, simply by repeatedly telling yourself who you want to be, what you want to accomplish and how you are going to accomplish it. With enough repetition, your sub-conscious mind will begin to believe what you tell it, act upon it, and eventually manifest it in your reality.
Putting your affirmations in writing makes it possible for you to choose your new programming so it moves you towards that desired condition or state of mind by enabling you to consistently review it. Constant repetition of an affirmation will lead to acceptance by the mind, and result in changes in your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. Since you get to choose and create your affirmations, you can design them to help you establish the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that you want and need to succeed.” –Elrod

V IS FOR VISUALIZATION
“Visualization, also known as creative visualization or mental rehearsal, refers to the practice of seeking to generate positive results in your outer world by using your imagination to create mental pictures of specific behaviors and outcomes occurring in your life. Frequently used by athletes to enhance their performance, visualization is the process of imagining exactly what you want to achieve or attain, and then mentally rehearsing what you’ll need to do to achieve or attain it.” – Elrod

Here you not only visualize (imagine) the outcomes you want. You need to mentally rehearse WHAT YOU WILL DO to achieve or attain those outcomes.

At the end of your morning meditation (silence), visualize your day, going through it thoughtfully, feeling the positive feelings and mentally experiencing successful outcomes.

E IS FOR EXERCISE
“Morning exercise should be a staple in your daily rituals. When you exercise for even a few minutes every morning it significantly boosts your energy, enhances your health, improves self-confidence and emotional well-being, and enables you to think better and concentrate longer.” –Elrod

People who are not experienced exercisers can watch YouTube videos for beginners or use DVDs. Use your own body weight or invest in some dumbbells.

Your body needs the movement and your brain needs the oxygen! Brain Rules by John J. Medina explains how your brain works.  Check YouTube for his short (and amusing) explanation why exercise is so important:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ck-tQt0S0Os&t=13s

R IS FOR READING
“Reading, the fifth practice in the Life S.A.V.E.R.S., is the fast track to transforming any area of your life. It is one of the most immediate methods for acquiring the knowledge, ideas, and strategies you need to achieve Level 10 success in any area of your life.
The key is to learn from the experts—those who have already done what you want to do. Don’t reinvent the wheel. The fastest way to achieve anything you want is to model successful people who have already achieved it. With an almost infinite amount of books available on every topic, there are no limits to the knowledge you can gain through daily reading.“ –Elrod

Some people try to read a book a day. Most people don’t have the time. Try for at least 10 pages from a non-fiction book. If you do this daily, how much information will you have taken in after a year?! Can you imagine how you could profit from this practice?

S IS FOR SCRIBING, aka, journaling or writing
The process of writing down your thoughts forces you to think through them enough to understand them. Daily writing will give you more clarity, encouraging you to come up with new ideas, and helps you effectively work through problems and challenges.

Journaling helps you not only expand your ideas, but also prevents you from losing the important ideas that you may want to act on in the future.

If you decide to Free Write, just write down everything and anything that comes into your mind, without evaluating the thoughts. Write as quickly as you can for a certain time, say five minutes. Then go back and read your entry. This practice clarifies your thoughts and lets you observe how your thinking could impact you today.

Daily journaling allows you to document your journey to creating your most extraordinary life. Tony Robbins says that a life worth living is worth writing down.


Doing all these activities in the morning gives you a strong head start for the day. Some call this time their Power Hour. Others just do each of the activities for a shorter time, say five minutes each. This is definitely a profitable investment of your time.

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Increased Intensity of Purpose

I’ve been a bit disappointed with my lackluster attitude toward losing the 10 kilograms I want to lose. I have lost 5 kilograms, which is good but it has taken 5 months to do so.

But now, I’m not sure why, I feel much more goal-oriented. I really look at what keeps me from losing weight and solve each problem, one at a time. I don’t eat cookies or chocolate-covered almonds in the afternoon. I don’t have a glass of wine every night. I cook healthy foods more often. I don’t eat fast food. I drink homemade iced tea with fresh mint and stevia instead of cola. And drink more water.

And this kind of intense feeling of purpose has splashed over onto other aspects of my life.

Like downsizing.

I put “downsize clothing”  as a frog task (“Eat that frog!) on my kanban board. Last weekend, I pulled EVERY blouse and top out of my closets. I looked at each one and was attentive to the feelings the blouse set off. If the feeling was good, and especially if it was “WOW!”, I tried it on. Otherwise, I tossed it. If it fit, I kept it. If not, I tossed it.

This last weekend, I did exactly the same with my pants, jeans, leggings, etc. Even my knickers were subjected to the Relentless Purge!

Then I went on to tackle my shoes – all of them! I now have a new rule, if I don’t wear something in the next six months, out it goes. No mercy…

In the end, I had a pile of 15 pants, 20 pairs of (clean) underwear, 5 pairs of shoes and 20 blouses for my cleaning lady. She takes what she doesn’t need back to Poland and distributes the things to the needy.

Getting my act together with one thing led to other parts of my life getting better. I’d read research on this phenomena but now I’ve experienced it first hand!

I have decided to downsize my work a bit, too. Starting in August, I am dropping one of my teaching days.

As far as re-designing my life goes, I have stopped my gym membership and do my training with YouTube. Wonderful! I can pick out the workout I want whenever I want it.

After my month-long trip to Singapore, Australia and New Zealand, I decided to visit Japan in April. Maybe I’ll get lucky with the cherry blossoms.

I read two books every weekend and feel inspired to improve even more.

Do you have a FROG to tackle?





Saturday, February 4, 2017

Stop procrastinating!

Stop procrastinating!

Emotion regulation is the whole story of procrastination.

I don’t feel like . . . I don’t want to . . . I’ll feel more like it tomorrow . . . are the lyrics to the procrastination song.  We might all sing it to a slightly different tune, but most of the tunes have that “poor little ol’ me” quality about them.

When we face a task for which we lack motivation, as evidenced by the “I don’t feel like it” thought, we face a choice. We can either move forward with the task despite the lack of motivation, or we can “go for the feel-good” by delaying the task now, with the delusion that we’ll do it at another time (and feel better then!). 

Delay comes at a cost.  Research shows that the hedonic boost we get from avoiding an unattractive task right now is short lived. We might give in to feel-good, but it doesn’t last. It’s what that Greeks called akrasia – weakness of will; acting contrary to what we know is in our best interest. It makes us feel weak and guilty.

When we get to that uncomfortable task during the day, we “don’t feel like it“ so we put it off. We needlessly delay the task despite expecting to be worse off for the delay. It may mean that the timely completion of the task was important and we’ll pay a cost for not getting it done on time, or it may mean that doing it later will result in something else getting pushed off.  For some people, life gets out of control because of this.

The key thing is that the only thing standing in the way of us doing an intended task is this – we don’t feel like it; we don’t want to.

Once you’ve acknowledged your negative feelings toward doing the task,  ask yourself, “what’s the next action?” Then do it. Or at least a small part of it. Often, once you start, the task loses much of its formidable facade. (Set the timer for 25 minutes, focus like crazy on the task and take a short, active break when the timer rings. Then jump back into the ring for another 25 minutes.)

Success is found in staying put, staying on task, getting the job done.

Maturity is recognizing that “not feeling like it” is not a reason, it’s an excuse.

Sleep Procrastination

Bedtime procrastination is defined as "failing to go to bed at the intended time, while no external circumstances prevent a person from doing so”.

A June 2014 study published by researchers at Utrecht University in the Netherlands found that 30% of their sample reported sleeping six hours or less on weeknights—significantly less than the seven to nine hours the National Sleep Foundation recommends for the average adult—even though 84% reported feeling that they slept too little at least once a week.

Just as we procrastinate when it comes to work, exercise, or other activities, we are probably also procrastinating when it’s time to go to bed.

So, how do we pry ourselves away from temptation and get to bed? It requires willingness, willpower, and good habits.

Observe yourself as you get varying amounts of sleep. Are you raring to go after six hours or do you need eight just to function well? Then, work backward to find your ideal sleep time, starting with your wake-up time. Do you get up at 5 a.m. to go to the gym? Do you work flex hours that let you sleep until 8 a.m.? Use your own circumstances and needs to determine your best sleep situation.

How much sleep do you NEED to feel alert and rested? Most people need between 6 1/2 and 8 hours of sleep. My experience with teaching stress management seminars is that many, many people are living and trying to work despite a chronic sleep deficit.

The Utrecht University study found that people who aren’t good at self-regulation were more likely to procrastinate at bedtime. So, set a time to power-down devices and stick to it as much as possible.

  1. Figure out how much sleep you need.
  2. Around what time would you need to be in bed to guarantee that you will probably sleep enough?
  3. Work back from that time to find out when you need to start your “get ready for bed” ritual.
  4. Try this out for a few nights and evaluate your energy and motivation levels.
  5. Tweak your ritual and  sleep time so that you feel great in the morning.


Maybe, just maybe, you will stop procrastinating during the day, too.